About Loren
Hello and welcome to my website.
Reaching out for help, or finding someone impartial to listen to you, is probably one of the hardest and most courageous steps in this therapeutic journey.
A journey that can be enlightening as well as daunting in your quest to find out who you really are, what makes you tick and how to accept yourself for who you are today.
It can also leave you asking more questions.
With so many counsellors out there, how do you know if I’m the right therapist for you? What do I offer that others don’t?
I am an Integrative counseller, meaning I use several ways of working and I adapt each session in relation to what is being presented by you.
There are 3 types of therapy frameworks I use;
Person Centred; allows me to enter your world from your perspective and walk alongside you. Sometimes just having a safe, non-judgemental and confidential space to air off any worries that are troubling you, helps you to feel lighter by sharing the burden with me.
Maybe you feel mis-understood or have anxiety about who you really are? Feeling lost with no purpose in life? Or your thoughts are really jumbled and you struggle to express how you are feeling?
My job is to help you, un-jumble and point out any difficulties that might be causing you to feel ‘stuck’. Looking at unhealthy patterns of relating and, together, come up with coping mechanisms to ride the waves of life and the obstacles it can entail.
Gestalt is German for ‘whole’ and is all about the ‘here and now’. What’s going on between you and I? How are we being with each other? How are we speaking to each other?
What goes on between us, can mirror how you are with others in your day to day life. My job here is to help you express yourself both verbally and through your body language.
Our body and mind can get out of sync with each other and become fragmented. Our work together can involve getting to know all these separate parts of you and becoming in tune and then, albeit figuratively, knit yourself back together again.
Then there is Transactional Analysis (TA). As children we learn how to navigate our way through society, taught by our elders, parents, teachers and any other authoritative figures that look after us.
Sometimes these are healthy, other times not so much, causing us to react conflictingly in any given situation. We can become confused about why and how we behave the way we do and also why others react in the way they do to you. Through awareness gained in the therapeutic relationship with me, I can shed light on, thoughts, feelings and behaviours, game playing and ways of expressing and relating, that can in fact be hindering and holding you back from change. Becoming spontaneous with the ability to adapt yourself to change, through new skills and knowledge that you will learn about yourself.
Truth be told, we all offer something different because we are all unique in our own experiencing. With this understanding and my own awareness about my own thoughts, feelings and behaviour, enables me to respect that you are distinct to me and how you feel, think and behave in any given situation will be unique to you.
My job is to walk alongside you and learn from you. To give you the gift of how it feels to be truly heard.
I have experience of working with;
Anxiety
Addictions
Anger management
Attachment styles
Autism/Aspergers
Bereavement and Loss
Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD
Bullying
Boarding School Syndrome
Couples
Depression
Dementia
Disabilities
Divorce
Discrimination
Emotional abuse
Loneliness
Low self-confidence
Low self-esteem
Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)
Relationship problems
Sexuality
Self harm
Stress
Suicidal thoughts
Trauma
Work related stress
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Contact Loren
Location
The Counselling Room
Alexandra House
Church Passage,
Banbury,
OXON
OX16 5JZ
